Now, more than ever, we are totally glued to our phones. Twenty years ago it was all about the way we talked, today it’s all about the way we text. It’s nice to be able to talk to anybody and everybody every second of every day, sharing every thought and detail of your life can make you feel like you’re together even when you’re miles apart. But even though we can send words back and forth almost as fast as we can think them, it’s a little bit harder to send emotions and feelings along with them. Sometimes all of those little tiny LOL’s and OMG’s only add to your confusion – especially when you are talking to a guy you like.
Don’t Freak Out If He Doesn’t Reply Immediately
So, how can you tell if your crush’s friendly greeting is more than just friendly? The first thing you have to remember is that guys don’t think or communicate the same way girls do. Most of the time, they say what they mean and they mean what they say. If you get a one letter response it’s because they’re busy or in a hurry or because it’s faster, not because they’re mad at you. Don’t read so much into it. Most guys are pretty straight forward.
He Texts You Throughout The Day
Something else to keep in mind is that while we ladies are the queens of multitasking, most guys just aren’t. They can do one thing at a time, and they can do it well, but try to get them to walk and chew gum at the same time and see what happens. Unless, of course, they are chasing a girl. Once a guy has his sights set on his lady love, he can pursue her 24/7, all while going about his normal routine. So, if your guy is texting you when his mind should be on other things, like work, chances are you’ve tickled his fancy. He just can’t get you out of his mind.
Does He Always Text Back Quickly?
Another way to tell if your guy is trying to send some ‘more than friend’ vibes your way via SMS is to pay attention to how fast he texts you back. If he is responding within a few seconds, you know he’s waiting on your next message and is totally engaged in the conversation. Even better is when you have a meeting of the minds moment and text each other at the same time – that’s almost the definition of soul mates in the 21st century.
He Tells You Everything
Also, if any guy takes the time to fill up that little screen with detailed descriptions of his day, chances are he’s digging on you just a little bit. Especially if he’s got an old-school phone. No man is going to take the time to text you line after line on those teeny tiny number keys unless he’s got some hidden feelings. The way he sees it, he’s making a valid effort to communicate with his lady, something not to be taken lightly.
He May Just Stink At Texting
When you are wrestling with your internal “he loves me, he loves me not” demons, make sure to keep in mind that every guy is different. So is every phone. Some guys may not text back as often as you would like because their phone is a pain in the you-know-what, while others may not text you back because they’re just not that into you. To tell which you’re dealing with, you’re going to have to use a little discernment. You don’t have to go all crazy stalker or anything, but scope him out when he’s texting his buddies. Does he look comfortable with his handset, or like a bit of a novice? If he’s a bit on the slow side, don’t be too offended if he’s a bit slow to get back to you.
He Wants To Spend Time With You
Something else to keep in mind is that if a guy is really into you, he’ll enjoy a bit of a chase. Let him initiate the text sessions from time to time. If you notice he’s hitting you up pretty regularly, out of the blue, chances are you’re on his mind more often than not. If he’s thinking about you while he’s walking around his living room or dozing off at night, you might be more than the girl of his dreams, if you get my drift.
The truth is that even though the way we communicate has gotten high-tech, the thoughts and feelings we are trying to convey are the same. There is a lot to be said for trusting your instincts; that being said if you are truly wondering about the intentions of your potential Romeo, the best thing you can do is ask. Maybe something like U+ME=:) After all, it’s only a text message. It’s impossible for him to know your true emotions, either. Worst case scenario, you tell him you were only kidding.