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7 Tips for surviving long distance relationship

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Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family members and friends may discourage you,but if you love someone you don’t let them go. So you stay and fight!

Well, Nobody says it is going to be easy but it’s going to be worth it at the end.  Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance may make you two realise the need to appreciate each other.

To keep your love affair alive, here are the 7 tips to make your long distance relationship work:

1. Let the communication flow
Don’t get tired of communicating to each other, never let someone take your place. Be the first person your partner will tell her good news to or sad news.
On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and it’s happening, Top up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. Don’t let someone or a friend fill that gap. 

2. See it as a opportunity.
“If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” – Anonymous
View it as a learning journey for the both of you. See it as a test of your love for each other. As the Chinese saying goes, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.

3. Set some ground rules to help prevent an argument
Both of you can Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, Is it alright for the other person to go on dates?
Is it okay to do some things? Ask and involve your partner on everything.  What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.

4. Keep the flames burning 
by sending each other teasing texts. Like talking about your wedding night and the likes.  This works pretty well too.

5. Do things together.
 Watch a documentary on YouTube.

Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. Create something, you know,Just have fun together!

6. Make visits to each other.
This is very important. Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like holding hands, etc. 

Work shouldn’t stop you from planning a visit.

7. Have a goal in mind.
“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.
So make a plan with each other. Do up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal. It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.

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Love in North pole- episode 2

It was a dark night and the moon gave no light,Tarma was all alone in the cave guarded by Princess Melina’s guard.
As Tarma slept, Tarma’s beautiful skin attracted the guard as he drew nearer to her, admiring her glowing skin. Tarma had a lovely figure and a beautiful face. The guard was excited with all what he could see. He had his way and had sex with Tarma as she slept unconsciously.
Tarma from her sleep felt a moving body on her,as she tried to open her eyes gradually she was shocked and screamed.

She was shocked to see the guard naked on her.

The guard held her mouth with his hands,she struggled with the guard but she started loosing strength. She became so weak and the guard had his way over again.

After months of searching and searching and Tarma could not be found. Hull went to princess Melina to allow her guards help with the search.
The princess told Hull,Tarma ran away with another Man and that Tarma was already pregnant.
Hull was shocked when he heard what princess Melina said. He told her that he wouldn’t believe unless he sees prove.
Unknown to Hull,Tarma was already 6 months pregnant. Tarma was pregnant for Princess Melina’s guard and it was all a planned work.
Tarma who was still in Princess Melina’s cave became unhealthy and looked very skinny. She was only given food once a day. She became very sick in a critical condition.

One hot afternoon, Princess Melina ordered her guards to clean up Tarma,give her a good bath. And also dress her up real good. As Tarma was being dressed up by Melina’s guards.
Tarma asked
“what’s your plan this time Melina, Ain’t you satisfied with all what you’ve done?”
“Not yet!”, Melina replied.
Tarma was so sick and weak as she couldn’t say much words. The princess then ordered that nice pictures of Tarma should be taken.
Melina sent pictures of Tarma’s to Hull.
Hull became very confused and depressed,and ran to the palace to see the princess because he wanted to know how Melina got to know about Tarma’s disappearance and also her pregnancy.
“She never loved you,she planned everything”.

Melina said.
“But how did you know?”

Hull asked
“I’m the princess, princesses know everything.”
she said smiling
Hull wept bitterly.
“Oh Hull! don’t cry lover boy.”
“I’m here for you Hull, I’m the only one who won’t break your heart, Tarma left your heart broken but I’m here to mend it up.”
Melina replied smiling,giving an innocent look…

To be continued in the next episode. Follow blog post not to miss out!

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16 Guys Reveal The reasons That Made Them Lose Interest in their partners. 

Guys fall in love based on how they feel around a woman. When you start forcing things and probably don’t go with the flow, they start withdrawing. The best thing is to be the best version of yourself.

So I’ve compiled these responses by guys and they revealed one thing that made them lose interest.

I took time and saw that it may really help ladies to understand some reasons why men lose Interest.

(1) “She was every guy’s friend, she chats with guys alone on her chat lists. All incoming calls are from her male friends. That was crazy and I couldn’t cope with it”.– David, 26

(2) “She never talked good about herself, would put herself and other women down constantly. It was like she was the most insecure person and wanted everyone else to be insecure. She was really not worth my time.” – Biggie, 28

(3) “She always nags. She complains about everything, the last time we went out she kept complaining about how she hates the sunny day and that we should have gone out at night” – Fisayo, 31

(4) “She’s so pretty,but always full of herself. She feels she’s miss world or something and she never takes corrections.” – Stephen, 25

(5) “She always talks about us getting married and I wasn’t just prepared for that.” — Michael, 27

(6) “Anytime we’re together, she was always on Instagram. It was really off putting.” — Kunle, 23

(7) “She cried at any little thing I did and she says I hurt her. That was just crazy, I had to go” — Timothy, 24

(8) “She can’t cook and she doesn’t see it as a bad thing.” — Dami, 28

(9) “She needed to be right. Her answer was always correct. There was no other answer.” – Josh, 25

(10) “She would’ve been a 10 if she ever bothered to work out, and that bothered me.” — Dave, 25

(11) “She kept saying how smart she was. Kind of in a braggart way, which, in a sense, was attractive, because it’s hard to find women who put an emphasis on being intelligent. However, the part that really got me was that she was not smart. At all, It was super depressing, to be honest. On our first date, she said without hesitation that Africa is a country. No, it’s really not. It’s an entire continent made up of many countries…” – Trey, 26

(12) “She actually said to me, ‘I hate reading! It’s so boring!’ God. Don’t be proud of that.” – Trey, 29

(13) “I’m 99% certain this girl I went on a date with was Tweeting about our date. I don’t talk to her anymore.” – Victor, 25

(14) “She was taller than me. Sad! ” — Tade, 29

(15) “I went over to her apartment and it was a mess. She is so dirty and doesn’t know it.” – Richard 28

(16) “I found out the number of people she had slept with,and she was just 22.” — Jerry, 27

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LOVERS ON STRIKE

STRIKE = BREAK: And break doesn’t necessarily mean you will break up. Probably you two just need to sit, think and restructure somethings in your relationship angle.

~~ Sometimes the time apart will help you realize how much the other person means to you (or help them realize how much you mean to them).

~~ It can reestablish the appreciation for one another and help you grow closer in the long run.

And then you ask; Should We Get Back Together?

How do you know when rekindling a relationship is the right choice and when it’s better to cut ties for good?

Lundquist often sees people who are unable to move on simply because they’re not willing to deal with the fact that the relationship is over. This can lead to an unhealthy pattern of breaking up and getting back together where nothing ever changes.

To avoid that kind of tumultuous situation, there are a few questions you can ask yourself to decide whether you should get back together. Worthy advises that if you’ve spent honest time apart and you still miss the other person, it may be worth revisiting the relationship.

• Ultimately you have to ask yourself if your life is better with that person in it.

• During your break, ask yourself: Am I sad? Do I miss this person? Do I want to reach out to this person? Or not? Do I actually feel a lot freer?

If you do ultimately decide to test the waters again, then go forth with intention and caution.

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My man just won’t talk! – women’s most common complaint

If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a thousand times. Women everywhere seem to say the same thing about their male partners and it goes like this: ‘He just shuts off to emotion! He never tells me how he is feeling!’ Or ‘He’ll leave the room and refuse to talk about it!’

Male friends have told me they hate it when a woman asks them during a quiet moment: ‘What are you thinking?’ Women find this a natural question because women tend to go quiet when they feel hurt or lied to. If a man is quiet, a women may assume his silence indicates that he is upset. Men, on the other hand, stop communicating when they have a problem to solve.

Understanding better how your partner processes emotions can clear up misunderstandings and bring greater tolerance into your relationship. The fact is that men and women are different in more than just the obvious physical ways.

Emotional arousal is bad for male health

This all reminds me of the old song: ‘Why can’t a woman be more like a man?’ Except in this instance it’s: ‘Why can’t a man be more like a woman?’ There are things you need to know about how most men and women relate differently to emotions.

And a prime difference is that men have to protect themselves from emotional arousal for the sake of their health.

The 1970s therapeutic ideal was about ‘getting in touch with your feelings.’ However, more recent research shows that strong emotion – particularly for men – can be physically dangerous. Women used to be dismissively known as the ‘weaker sex’ – but in some ways men are actually more vulnerable. Women not only live longer but at every stage of life the male is more likely to die than the female. Even in infancy, premature boys are more likely to die than premature girls.

Men act, women talk

Firstly, men’s brains are wired for action during high emotion, whereas women’s brains are wired for talking things over. If a man instinctively knows his anger is likely to lead to action (and possibly regrettable violence) he may try to stop it going that far by putting a lid it on it. Or ‘clamming up’ as his partner may describe it.

Secondly, from an evolutionary perspective men would have had to shut off their emotions while out hunting, so over time it has become natural for them to do so.

But there is a third and even better reason why men typically may shut themselves off more from emotional arousal.

In an emotionally-arousing situation, a man’s first instinct is to leave and calm down. This is partly due to how emotions affect men. They are a cue to physical action – the consequences of which could be terrible. If a man stays put and becomes very emotional, his blood pressure skyrockets and he is at risk of having a heart attack. It also takes much longer for a man’s blood pressure and immune system to return to normal after high emotion than it does for a woman. Therefore a man will instinctively try (without even knowing that this is what he is doing) to protect himself and escape the situation.

Young boys are more stressed by emotion than girls

This difference in male/female emotion processing is evident from a young age. Women need to be more tuned into their emotions than men because they are, more often, the ones who rear children (of course, this is a generalisation and there are always exceptions). One research study showed that young boys were much quicker to try to switch off a recording of a baby crying than young girls were. The researchers at first reasoned that this was because of male insensitivity. But it turned out that the boys had much higher levels of stress hormone in their bloodstreams than the girls did on hearing the emotionally arousing trigger. Men are actuallymore sensitive to emotion and so more likely to avoid it.

This gender difference persists through life and old men are much more likely to die soon after the loss of a partner than an elderly wife when she loses her husband.

Let’s have some understanding

The best way to relate to one another is for men to appreciate that a woman needs to off load sometimes and for a woman to know that a man may prefer to talk about practicalities rather than how he is feeling.

So a man, when he realises that his partner is upset or worried about something, can ask her if she would like to talk about it. But then he needs to resist the temptation to offer advice or tell her what to do! Just listen and affirm her feelings.

Conversely, a woman who notices something is up can think twice before asking that frightening question – ‘How do you feel?’ or before starting to say ‘I feel’. A good alternative might perhaps be to say ‘It might be a good idea if we do such-and-such about that – This makes it action orientated and therefore less threatening to her male partner. Remember strong emotion physically harms a man and is a cue to action rather than discussion.