Earlier this year, I watched a video where a lady left the UK to Nigeria to start a business. She believed her business was going to make more profit back home (Nigeria).
I’ve also spoken with few people, who said they prefer life back in their home countries.
What could be the reason behind their sudden change in plans? Most people come into the UK with big plans, why the sudden change to go back home?
Personally, I believe people have high expectations before arrival in the UK, and when things don’t go the way they expect, they start panicking.
Life generally comes with ups and downs, but the way we react to the suitations we face, determines how we’ll scale through.
I’ve shared some messages I got from people about life suitations abroad and how they feel. I got these messages when I once shared a post on my story on Instagram, and I got some messages from people who shared similar experiences. I’ve decided to share three messages I received with y’all.
Names have been changed for data protection.
Rose, from Belgium. Currently Living in London.
“I also felt like that when I moved to London for the first year, but then when I left because of work I realised that I actually had found lots of hapiness and a new family there. However, I had too many expectations to look at it properly.
I’m from Belgium. Lived in London and totally loved it but had to leave for work in Paris. However, Paris is not a city I ever really dreamt of but work opportunity was great. Yeah London is loneliness is real, but I feel like it’s the same in every big cities although once you meet people in London they’re usually quite nicer than in other cities haha”. (Back in London)
Oyin, From Nigeria currently living in the US.
“The major problem is that people have high hopes on obodo Oyinbo even before arriving.
They think it’s all rosy here especially coming from Africa. So when they come and realise it’s not all perfect abroad too, the hustle here the bills and the fact that loneliness here is on another level scares the hell outta them. They literally feel abroad is 100 percent okay, and hence the disappointment when they see the struggle here upon arrival”.
Davidson, from Nigeria. Currently Living in London.
Life here is boring. I don’t know why people are here. They spend most of their lives working and paying bills, doing less valuable jobs. Okay! They are making money yea, but the money goes back to the UK system. I don’t see myself living here permanently. I might just be shuffling between Nigeria and UK.
Finally, a little advice from Presh
If you just arrived in the UK, and you’re trying to find your balance, it might take a while, but keep your head up. You’ve got to find your own happiness, do what you love and be where you want, look beyond the present suitation and focus on why you’re at your present location. Draft out a plan and never leave God out of your decisions.
Please share your abroad experience below, we’ll love to read your story.