LOVE

Seeing the live size photo of our marriage hanging on the wall of our bedroom, standing asides each other and his jolly hockey sticks grin , me trying to smile but could not due to heavy makeup, heavy lengha and lights , my parents spend their hard earn money on the marriage which  according to me would not have last even a month, not because he is a bad guy because I loved someone but that someone at the time of commitment  gave me nonsense of good job, big bucks salary; basically he had commitment phobia which I came to know when my parents were seriously in search of a groom and I told him to meet my parents for our marriage and he left the city the very day.

What a looser he was and what a biggest loser I was that could not handle the betrayal of my boyfriend, so I accepted this marriage proposal assuming that everyone has to marry some day so what’s the big deal in this; but I forgot its marriage a commitment for life. I have to see this man, serve him, ignore his bad habits, adjust with his family and aaha! Love him. Here comes the twist for which I wasn’t ready.

We got married and it was final that I have to leave my parents abode and settle down with this man for the entire life. I was crying partially due to emotions for my parents and partially due to headache. Well the entire journey from my place to his place lasted for 30 min, the whole house was lit up, relatives were standing outside to receive us, the kids were making noise and I was getting irritated with all this, the soon I wanted this to end the more time it was taking.  The auntie’s of the world surrounded me and were scanning me from top to bottom, pretending to say things in each other ears but it sounds loud and clear to me, some said “the lengha is not heavy, my daughters lengha was heavier  than this” some said “even the jewellery is not according to the trend must be her mother’s old jewellery” then in the midst of all  this a kind hearted women came to my rescue  and said “be quite, she is very beautiful and now she is my daughter in law, come lets go to your room”  I was so happy, alas! I can sleep now.

The moment the bedroom door open, I wished I was sitting in the drawing room and listening to the bitching of the entire auntie’s. Why with me God? The room was decorated with roses and jasmine. If I would have accepted this marriage and my husband with all my heart then this would have been a pleasant surprise but this is a mockery of my emotions done by my own hands. How could I give myself this punishment? Not for once I thought that marriage is also surrendering yourself. She left me in the room and close the door, I was so petrified  and in all haste I started removing my hairdo, open my bags and quickly changed into a night gown and before he came  I slept.

Next morning when I woke up I saw him sleeping beside me in his shervani, I slowly got down from the bed but the sound of my anklets and bangles disturbed his sleep. He quickly got up and asked me “do you want something”

before he asks something else I said no and went to the washroom. I spend 30 min in the bathroom thinking what should I do next, how did I forgot that marriage also means sex and I can’t allow him to touch me as I don’t love him I don’t even accept him as my husband.  When I came out the tea was kept on the table. He served me tea and before he ask me anything I myself said “I was not well that’s why I slept”

he sipped the tea and asked “how are you feeling now, if you require medicine I will bring for you”

I just nod to his question and smile back to him. For hours we were locked in the same room, first he freshens up and then me, we didn’t talk to each other except the prerequisite.  We went outside and the moment we step out of the room all the auntie’s again “how was the night Mr. Groom” trying to find some kind of bites and suddenly the kind hearted women the one who saved me last night, my mother in law came to me and made us sit on the dining table; served breakfast and said “Priya (that’s me) don’t mind what all they are saying, they are just pulling your leg”

I smiled back to her and quickly finish my breakfast.

The day passed by knowing all the relatives and talking to the sweet kids, the marriage is such a tiring thing that how much sleep you get is not enough. Anyways while I was going back to my room, he came running behind me and handed me honeymoon tickets.  He was so happy and so unhappy I was but I didn’t say a word and went back to the room, leaving him alone in the lobby area. The night after dinner, we both were in our room sitting far from each other on the bed decorated with flowers. He stood up and sat near me; I also sat straight and was avoiding his sight.

He holds my hands and asked “were this marriage proposal was forced on you”

Continues……..

Karan had a dream of becoming a famous dancer since he was 6. Dancing was his only passion. But his parents didn’t like it. They never supported his dream. They always thought dancing was such a waste of time.

Karan had a childhood friend, Aditya. Aditya was a successful businessman in Mumbai. They were best friends. Karan used to share everything to him. Karan told Aditya that his family would never support his passion of dancing. Aditya advised him to leave his house and come to Mumbai. Karan had no other option so he decided to leave for Mumbai.

Two days after, Karan went Mumbai. There he stayed with Aditya. Aditya had a girlfriend, Riya. Riya was a fabulous choreographer. Aditya introduced Karan to her thinking she could help him in dancing. Riya agreed.

Next day, Riya told Karan that a dancing competition was to be held after ten days. The competition required a partner. So Riya asked Karan if he wanted, she could be his partner. Karan saw it as a golden opportunity for his dream so he agreed.

Riya and Karan started rehearsing day and night. They started spending much of their times together practising. Gradually dance brought them closer and they became good friends. Aditya had no problem with this.

As the competition came closer, Karan had developed a feeling more than that of just friendship. He couldn’t help thinking about Riya when he was not with her. He wanted to spend whole day with her. He remembered all the memories they shared together. He was just lost in Riya. He was in love with Riya. He realized it soon. He wanted to tell this to her but very thought of Riya being his best friend’s possession, stepped him aback. He didn’t want to lose his best friend. He made up his mind to leave Mumbai after this competition was over.

The big day was today. Karan was behaving unusual. He was not focused on dancing. He was just thinking that he would lose Riya. Forever.

“Are you alright?” asked Riya.
“Hmm. Just a bit nervous,” Karan replied.
“I understand. But don’t worry. You’ll rock.”
“Riya, I want to say something.”
“What?”
“I..I…I love you.”

Riya remained silent. They saw Aditya stepping in the room. Riya left the room seeing him coming closer. Aditya looked stunned. He asked Karan how he could love Riya knowing her to be his girlfriend. Karan felt guilty. He explained he didn’t realize when he fell for her. He promised to leave the city after the competition and never return back again.

The competition had begun. Contestants were being called. “Now the next participants are Karan and Riya.”, Anchor announced. Karan was waiting for Riya. Though his mind was buzzing she wouldn’t come but something kept him waiting. Five minutes passed. Their names were again announced but none came on the stage. When the third time their names were announced, Karan stepped up on the stage alone. No sooner he was going to announce that he was going to give up than Riya headed towards the stage. Claps were only one could hear at that epoch.

Their performance started. They danced as if they were two bodies and just one soul. The sync was perfect. Everything was perfect. Music stopped and their dancing too. People cried in unison, “Once more! Once more!” Thanking everyone, Karan and Riya left the stage.

“The winners are… Riya and Karan,” announced the jury. But there was only Riya standing on the stage and receiving the trophy. As promised, Karan had already gone.

Karan was in his room and crying bitterly looking at the picture of Riya he had in his mobile. Suddenly someone knocked the door. Wiping off his tears quickly, he opened the door. He found Aditya standing there along with Riya. Her eyes were moistened with tears. “Take her with you. She loves you too,” said Aditya, handing her hand to Karan. “We’ll always remain best friends.”

Before Karan could realize what had happened, Aditya had gone leaving Riya with him.

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At one point or the other, ladies expect the men to get down on their knees and propose.

However, this doesn’t happen always. Not every relationship end up in marriage and in some cases, a few may look like they will but at the long run, the women get to discover it’s a ghost chase with those men.

Ladies unlike the men have the urge to settle down quickly and start a family. Most men often feel pressurized when it comes to this issue of settling down with a lady and getting married. As ladies, what are the implications of dating men who aren’t ready to settle down and what are the signs that say a man isn’t ready to settle down.

1. Lack Of Commitment

This isn’t so difficult to observe. When a man shows no zeal or interest in making future plans with a woman, then the future of that relationship itself is questionable. Men like these are hard to make plans with. They probably want to have fun and keep things as they are. They prefer the relationship to be as plain as possible and may suggest keeping things as they are for a while. They avoid complications that may arise from meeting the lady’s family members and could date the woman for as long as possible without suggesting they get engaged or seal the relationship.

2. Money Minded

A man who is passion driven and ambitious may not want to settle down until he’s attained stability in his finances and is comfortable. Men with this kind of mentality would always want to make headway with their careers first before plunging deeper into a relationship. They understand that without money, marriage is a bridge they may never cross.

3. Failure To Plan His Life With You

A man who doesn’t let his girlfriend in on the little details of his life isn’t ready to take any step towards settling down. Not only is he expected to ask the woman about plans for her life, he should be able to discuss the things he hopes to achieve with her as well. This would give the lady a sense of belonging and both of them could work things out from that vantage point. A man who wouldn’t share details of his work and family shows he’s not ready to settle down. He prefers to be as shady as possible.

4. Lack Of Responsibility

A man who cannot cater for the needs of his girlfriend and people around him strikes one as being irresponsible. Men like these often lack the initiative to do things on their own and when they do, it turns out to be the wrong things. They would rather blow large amount of money away on irrelevant things and get stranded on the major projects of their lives. They have no set priorities and would be quick to jump off the cliff with a new person of interest. The ladies in their lives have a feeling of insecurity due to their recklessness. Men like these could engage a woman for as long as possible and never make plans to marry her. Life is all about fun and adventure to them.

5. Secretive

Some men are weird and secretive. Everything is coded with them. They avoid taking the ladies out to major functions that involves family and friends. They are more or less afraid to be seen in public with these ladies. They avoid the word marriage and make the women feel they are being rushed when the women demand for more. They also try as much as possible to make their family members out of the ladies’ reach and hide under the pretense of being too busy. These signs show a man isn’t ready to settle down.

Some relationships deserve a play back; a chance for people to set things right and correct their wrongs. Break ups are good sometimes, it allows for clarity and moments of reflection. But while making so much efforts at getting an ex back, there are dos and don’ts of the game.

The following tips could help make you desirable to your EX again.

1. Don’t Severe Ties

This is one huge mistake that people make. They never want to have anything to do with that person at the moment they hurt the most. It may be good to stay away for a while to think things through and give the ex a chance to miss you and determine whether they want to stay with you. However, when one has gone past the pain, a reconnection should be made in the most subtle way; a way that don’t label you as being needy and unable to live without them.

2. The Sold Birthright Tale

Don’t because of your desperation at making your ex desire you and probably want you back do anything to please them at your own detriment. Don’t sell your integrity and allow an ex trample you. Doing this puts you in a compromising situation; you would never be taken serious and they would never be committed to you. You give them the impression you need them more than they need you and can’t live without them. Your affection and feelings would be taken for granted.

3. Work On The Reason You Broke Up

If it was your fault you broke up, you should probably look into the things that caused the break up and try to eliminate them. Break ups just don’t happen, something trigger them. If things happened as planned, there’s the likelihood of another disaster happening; an impending break up. During the moment you are staying away from your ex, work on your attitude.

4. Never Talk Them Out Of A Relationship

If you have the chance to connect with an ex, try to tread with caution. At one point or the other, your ex would want to venture into a new relationship. This is their way of reacting to the pain of the break up. These relationships hardly work out. Don’t abuse your position here and try not to talk them out of it. Trying to warn them would only make them more determined to try out the new relationship in order to prove you wrong. These relationships they go into help them see and appreciate your qualities more.

5. Don’t Be A Pest

Trying desperately to connect with your ex via numerous calls, texts, and social media check-ups is a wrong move. This would infuriate your ex and make them resent you. When trying to get your ex back, come as a friend who is ready to start afresh and not pick things up from where you left them. You don’t come off as being needy this way.

6. Show Dependency

While you may do a routine check on your ex, avoid making them feel monitored. Move on with your life, find a purpose. Strive to achieve your set goals; everyone appreciates success. Your ex would be proud of you knowing you are breaking grounds and making a huge success in your chosen field.

The ability to conform with the above tips naturally fills you with confidence. Only then can you take bigger and bolder steps at asking your ex to come back.

“I love you.” It’s vital these three important words be conveyed regularly and often to keep a relationship healthy and strong.

1. You, sweetheart, are my one and only.

2. You take my breath away.

3. Lovingly yours.

4. With you, forever won’t be too long.

5. To the world’s best wife!

6. When I see you, I think “Good job, God!”

7. You are the love of my life!

8. It’s awesome to spend my life with you!

9. Love you, sweetheart!

10. I treasure you.

11. I adore you.

12. Sweetheart, you stir my soul!

13. I’m head over heels for you.

14. I cherish you.

15. You turn me on!

16. Life is incomplete without you.

17. To the one I love:

18. We were made for each other!

19. You’re my soulmate and the love of my life.

20. You’re one hot babe!

21. I’m looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together!

22. Sweetheart, you add peace, subtract sorrow and multiply joy in my life!

23. I can’t even conceive of life without you.

24. The best thing in life is spelled Y-O-U!

25. You, my love, are my inspiration.