Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family members and friends may discourage you,but if you love someone you don’t let them go. So you stay and fight!
Well, Nobody says it is going to be easy but it’s going to be worth it at the end. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance may make you two realise the need to appreciate each other.
To keep your love affair alive, here are the 7 tips to make your long distance relationship work:
1. Let the communication flow
Don’t get tired of communicating to each other, never let someone take your place. Be the first person your partner will tell her good news to or sad news.
On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and it’s happening, Top up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. Don’t let someone or a friend fill that gap.
2. See it as a opportunity.
“If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” – Anonymous
View it as a learning journey for the both of you. See it as a test of your love for each other. As the Chinese saying goes, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.
3. Set some ground rules to help prevent an argument
Both of you can Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, Is it alright for the other person to go on dates?
Is it okay to do some things? Ask and involve your partner on everything. What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.
4. Keep the flames burning
by sending each other teasing texts. Like talking about your wedding night and the likes. This works pretty well too.
5. Do things together.
Watch a documentary on YouTube.
Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. Create something, you know,Just have fun together!
6. Make visits to each other.
This is very important. Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like holding hands, etc.
Work shouldn’t stop you from planning a visit.
7. Have a goal in mind.
“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.
So make a plan with each other. Do up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal. It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.