Browsing Category


lifestyle LOVE

Make that relationship work!




Sitting on the couch, watching a break up scene from a movie, a lot went through my mind,and I asked these questions: why do people break up? Why don’t relationship last? Why do couples have difficulties in making things work out?… I thought,I began to find answers to my many questions,I began to see the reasons behind everything.

 ~~ I realised that People don’t just break up,there’s always a reason for everything on earth. I also realised that,nothing on planet earth can be made perfect and only the creator is perfect. So this also implies that, we can never get a perfect someone,so why not sit down and work things out between that person and stop complaining. Make things work!

~~ First you need to sit down and think matured thoughts,we should try to blow cold whenever the other person blows hot. Blowing hot at the same time wouldn’t solve the argument.
Understand that your lover is not perfect,we grow and learn everyday. Correct when you need to correct and also listen to corrections from the other person and not act as if you’re the boss. Playing the game of I’m the boss will never make things work. Respect yourself first before asking to be respected.  Most times,we ruin our relationships ourselves. Understanding one another matters a lot. Love is the bedrock of every relationship,love signifies oneness. Love is very essential here!

~~ Trying something new also does the trick. Sometimes same old regular routine creates a dull atmosphere why not bring up new ideas to keep the fire burning! Make everyday a special one for your special someone and always try to treat them right,and never make them regret giving you their heart!

– By Presh Olives

lifestyle LOVE

Make me laugh, and I’ll marry you


Most ladies love funny guys…on most ladies top search list for prince charming… Funny is most times number ‘3’. Dating a funny guy just cools of one’s brain, makes one think less about the struggles of life and more.   – Presholives


Unfortunately, finding Mr. Funny Man is supremely difficult. What’s up with that, boys? Why aren’t you funny? Brattiness requires minimal brain effort and is never impressive. Although it’s fair to note that dating an actual comedian type could be a nightmare. They’re usually full of self-loathing, insecurity, and booze. But you know what? I don’t care. I’ll take my funny guy with a side of messed up. All of the people worth knowing and dating are crazy anyway.

This is sort of unrelated, but you know what I think is hilarious? When I’m hanging out with someone who has no sense of humor and I make my tenth joke of the evening when, all of a sudden, they look at me like a lightbulb just went off in their head and say, “Oh my goddddd, you’re like really funny! Wow….” Um, duh. Where the hell have you been during this hang out session? It’s all I have! If you weren’t aware of my sense of humor, what were you noticing? Don’t answer that actually. Funny people are sensitive. 


Why Do Men Cheat on their Wives?


Thanks to Tiger Woods’ online statement, it is now clear that he has indeed been unfaithful to his wife of 5 years, Elin Nordegren. He joins the infamous list of famous men who have cheated on partners that are, by outward standards, quite beautiful  Kobe Bryant, Hugh Grant, Eric Benet (Halle Berry’s former hubby)  with women that are, well, of questionable repute.

Most men seem to think that if they can find a woman who is attractive enough, they will never stray. This is one of the many drivers of the male animal’s search for a very attractive mate, but clearly that idea has some problems.

The fact that famous and successful man after man is willing to burn down his marriage and career for the pleasures of an affair raises a variety of interesting questions about human behavior. Why do they do it, when they seem to have everything at home?

Here are some theories:

1.    A powerful man who has the opportunity is a good candidate to cheat. Their wife’s attractiveness has nothing to do with it.
2.    This just proves that trying to find the most attractive mate is a silly exercise. Once the marriage gets going, how attractive the people are has no bearing on how happy, sad, honest or faithful they will be.
3.     No woman can be beautiful enough to keep a man faithful. There has to be something else at play to have him remain fully committed to the relationship.
4.    As Chris Rock said, “Men are as faithful as their options. If they have no opportunity to cheat, they won’t.”

Discussing the “quality” of a human being is odd. We all know, for instance, that there is a difference in the grace and bearing of Nelson Mandela as opposed to Steve O. from the TV show Jackass. It also feels judgmental and strange to write about it. Clearly this isn’t some kind of endemic quality – Steve O. could begin to act like Nelson Mandela tomorrow if he wanted to, and vice versa. But the way each man chooses to act, dress and conduct his affairs allows us to draw some broad generalizations about the level of class he has.

When you compare the “quality” of the wives with that of the mistresses there is a noticeable gap. Is this because…

A.    The women who are willing to cheat with a married man are often less classy?
B.    Men want wives that are upstanding and wholesome, but mistresses that are down and dirty?
C.    The best place to find a mistress is in a place where less classy women hang out?

In the end, Tiger joins the club of shame — disappointing millions of fans, risking his family and likely losing tens of millions of dollars in endorsements. It’s worth wondering how a man who is hounded by the paparazzi would ever think that he could keep an extra-marital affair secret. Doesn’t he know the day it begins that it’s going to end up in USMagazine and The Drudge Report?


We’d love to hear your comments on this story


What says your standards about your relationship?


Can your expectations of a relationship affect how satisfied you are with it? If you have high standards, are you more likely to be disappointed? Or can having high standards be a motivator to make your relationship stronger?

A long-term study of recently married couples tested this question, to see how a person’s standards affect their relationship satisfaction [1]. It turns out that it all depends on how happy you are to begin with.

The results depended on whether or not there were existing problems in the relationships. Those with fewer problems were more likely to get good results from having high standards. Those with more problems were more likely to find their high standards causing further problems.

Newly married couples were asked to rate their relationship satisfaction early on, and then again four years later. They were also quizzed about their standards, and on how important certain relationship factors were to them. These factors included communication, trust, sex, affection, and money management.

Those who expressed some relationship dissatisfaction at the start were more likely to take a hit from having high expectations. Those who were happiest went on to feel the most benefit from having higher standards.

These results suggest that, as long as you start out on the right footing, having high expectations can be a source of motivation in maintaining a positive relationship. Whereas, if there are already some problems rooted in the relationship, having higher standards can develop into further problems.

This might seem logical – the higher your standards are, the harder it is to meet them. However, this study shows that, at least where relationships are concerned, it’s your ability to meet expectations that affects what kind of an impact they have on you. If you have the capacity to grow, you’ll benefit from having high standards. If you don’t, you may suffer.

So, if you’re struggling, there are two things you can do either lower your expectations a little, until you feel better able to manage, or seek some support to help strengthen your relationship.

If you do sense that there are problems, even if they’re only little ones, seeking help from a professional relationship counsellor can help prevent them from growing into something bigger and allow you to deal with them while they are still small.